Wednesday, February 16, 2011 3 comments By: JMimie

Hope In The Midst Of a Chaotic World

We are living in a very chaotic world today. It's an undeniable fact. Frightening news of crisis of all types - political crisis, economic crisis, mental crisis, health crisis, social crisis just to name a few - are very prevalent and getting worse these days. Although the intensity and types of turmoil may vary  from one place (or country) to another place, we all share a common corrupted and sinful world. No matter how much we want to avoid crisis and its effects, none can escape from getting affected by  them either directly or indirectly, in one way or another notwithstanding the geographical boundary. Whether we want it or not we are trapped in  a very messed up world! 

Such being the case, we - all the earthlings - can't help but become fearful, discouraged and depressed. These are normal and acceptable reactions but not to be taken for granted. What seems to be normal in the beginning may, in the long run, turn into a greater disaster when left untreated. Take last week's local news for instance, two cases of 'self-induced death' or better known as committing suicide in Serdang and Malacca are enough to warn us the horrible result of depression. According to the report, a 35-year-old mother jumped to her death from the 10th floor after murdering her 5-year-old daughter by throwing her from the fourth floor earlier. Why? Because of depression. Meanwhile a Form 5 student in Malacca also did the same thing by jumping to her death in front of horrified teachers and schoolmates. Why? No specific reason mentioned but I assume most likely due to depression because logically thinking I don't think a hopeful person would ever attempt to take his/her own life. Only a hopeless person  who dare to be coward enough would commit such  a crime. In fact, while typing this entry there's a funeral going on in my village at this very hour. One of my neighbors (a 38-year-old father) had chosen to poison himself to death, leaving 8 young kids behind and an ex-wife who has left him for another man two years prior to the incident .  Feeling betrayed and  unfairly dumped, he had been in great depression ever since until last weekend he decided to end his own life. What a sad and tragic ending for creatures who were created after the image of God! Had they remained hopeful and faithful things would have been different for them.

Friends, it's true that this old earth is not an easy and safe world to live in but soon and very soon all the chaos that has turned our world upside down will pass away. No matter how dark things look or how huge your problems are at the moment, never ever lose hope. There's hope in God.  He knows His plans for your life. Our loving God plans to prosper you and me, not to harm us. He longs to give us a hope and a future. Be strong and take courage. Put your trust in Him because you are destined to be more than a conqueror! Don't lose faith, don't lose hope because hope keeps you alive and sustains you in times of crisis. Wait till the darkness is over...it won't be long. Keep hoping for the best. God bless everyone.
Tuesday, January 18, 2011 3 comments By: JMimie

Eat Pray Love

According to my 2011 planning chart, this year gonna be very busy days for me. I got at least two big projects need to be done commencing next week onwards, not to mention some 'clients' that are waiting in line for some wise counsels (I'm talking about their expectation of me) from me as well as new books hoped to be touched and read by me and bla bla bla...huhu. Well of course I enjoy doing all those assignments or rather hobbies I should say but it also means less and less and less time left for blogging, facebooking whatsoever. Therefore, to all my faithful readers please bear with my inability to update my post as frequent as you wished it to be. I can promise you nothing but this - I'll try my best to accommodate your wish:-)

Eat Pray Love? It's actually a book authored by Elizabeth Gilbert. I got it from my best friend as a birthday gift last week. I've just finished reading the first few pages, still long way to go to get to the last page of the book. So far I find it very entertaining (so funny indeed that it can make me LOL like crazy while reading it...hahaha), amazing, insightful and adventurous narration of one's pursuit of pleasure, devotion and balance between the two in three different beautiful places namely Italy, India and Indonesia. I'm with her in Italy now. A place where you can encounter sweet expressions like bel far niente, means "the beauty of doing nothing" (highly recommended to workaholics only, I suppose),  l' arte d' arrangiarsi - the art of making something out of nothing (highly recommended to sluggard or maybe jobless group...just my opinion though), etc. I love this quotation also..."Better to live a life of single-pointed focus"...if you got two items/desires clashing against one another, you are destined for unhappiness it says (I'm paraphrasing it)...I bet I know the reality of this philosophy very well. Trying to live a life of double-pointed focus to me is the same as living without focus at all. In the end, you'll end up accomplishing nothing or worse still living with full of regrets for the rest of your life. Anyone disagree? But what about the benefits of living harmoniously amid extremes? could we somehow synchronize seemingly nonparallel opposites into a worldview that excludes nothing? What do you think?

Well...that's it for today...will be back as soon as I get to India :-)
Tuesday, January 11, 2011 8 comments By: JMimie

11.1.11 - BORN AGAIN

11.1.11

Today and only today
My exclusive date comes once in a lifetime
Quintuple one reminds me of five stones
Used to tumble down the giant of old
An assurance and a promise
That through Him the giants in my life
Will soon be tumbled down too

Today and only today
marks a new beautiful beginning
For another year full of blessed hope in Him
Ready to use and be used according to His will

Today and not only for today
I fix my gaze directly before me
Like the first gleam of dawn
Shining ever brighter till the full light of day!

P/S I just jot down whatever words come to my mind and in less than 15 minutes, this is the result I got...not bad huh?...hehe. Blessed birthday to me and to everyone that shares the same birthday with me. By the way, Happy New Year 2011! Thank you for being faithful readers and friends of Really Living throughout the past year. Keep blog walking with me because I really need u all :-) God bless us.

From Mimie with love.

Monday, December 13, 2010 0 comments By: JMimie

Enjoy Your Holidays To The Fullest!

For most working individuals, holiday is always looked forward to. In fact, everybody loves holiday. We want holiday - not just holiday, but holiday + s as many as possible. It gives us rest and relief from our hectic schedules, provides time to get together with family members, can go jalan2/cuti2 Malaysia...the list goes on. Unfortunately, not all get the same quantity of holiday. Some even hardly get any. Teachers and students especially should be the most grateful ones because without the need to face the sometimes-very-fussy-boss/procedures of applying for a leave, what they desire is already granted. Like a gift receives from Santa Claus, November and December bring them a special gift of long holidays every year whom greatly envied by those belong to other professions. What a  privilege to have!

But to me, meaningful holiday has nothing to do with the number of holidays you have. In other words, it's not about how long or how short your holidays are but it's about how you spend the season. Sometimes, friends come to me and ask me "kau tidak boring (sepatutnya bored ba kan..:-) di rumah saja sepanjang masa ka Mie? ". Recently, my nieces who are now on school holidays came to me and complained "boring betul la cuti ni aunty...teda apa2 mau buat di rumah." Does anyone of you out there feel the same too? The first feeling of excitement for having long long vacation slowly fades away as there's nothing interesting things left to do now. You can only wait in hope that Christmas may come as soon as possible and the joy of it's celebration would soon override the 'boringness' you're feeling at the moment. Or worse still, you just live the day as it is without any expectation, anticipation, vision or plan for something better for the next few moments, days, months, years to come.

Honestly, every time when people ask me do I ever get bored being stuck at home all day long, I always get trapped in  between whether to answer yes or no. The problem is because my answer isn't a 'yes' as most people would expect to hear. The truth is this; I've always wanted to say a 'No, I don't. Never'  answer to the question but considering the arrogant tone of such  an extraordinary reply  so most times, I ended up giving the safest  response I can think of - "sometimes". Well, I wish I could be bold enough to tell the truth  for the sake of truth. Nothing else counts but the truth...hehe...

Okay, you may wonder how come I never get bored with my introverted life. Firstly, because I''ve already deleted the word of bored or anything similar from my life's dictionary since long time back. Therefore, it's influence on me has been ceasing ever since. Indeed, it has lost all it's sting and there's no way for it to harm me any longer. In short, bored (or whatever you call it) ) is a word and a  feeling  that seems like an alien to me now because it's been a long time since I last had it.

Secondly, because I have very interesting hobbies. I love learning very much. I love reading like crazy. I love writing a lot. I love giving motivational talk. I love giving counseling to friends too. I love so on and so forth...my point here is you must have a hobby/hobbies of your interests in order to live a wonderful life. Fill your boring days doing hobbies that you love doing. Enjoy doing them. Trust me I never get bored with my quiet life because every moment spent with my hobbies bring  me great contentment and satisfaction. Life is too short for me to live with boredom. In fact, I wish I had more than 24 hours a day so I could do more. Don't you?

Lastly, because I am a lady of vision and action. I have a few visions yet to achieve. I'm not going to reveal them here. No. Not yet. For now, it's enough to tell that to me no matter what happens along the journey of my life I never lose sight of my visions. These visions give me a strong sense of purpose and courage to live on. I also look at the ups and downs of life as adventurous and interesting  things to explore for learning. I anticipate each and every day as a mystery yet to experience, yet to unfold. Although I never know about tomorrows nor what will happen next the mystery of the unknown itself encourages me to strive all the more towards the goal of getting it unfolded. By having these ingredients mixed in my daily meals of life my appetite for an enthusiastic life increases. Hence, I'm bored-free

Friends, if you have been feeling bored for the last few days it's time to get rid of it. Start doing something interesting and worthwhile. Have a hobby. Have a vision. Have a purpose to live for. Learn something new. Invest your time and energy on it. Most of all, enjoy doing it. Let this holiday season become one of the most memorable times in your life not because of it's quantity but because of it's quality. Enjoy your holidays to the fullest with the highest quality of use you can best!

Have a blessed Christmas!



Thursday, November 4, 2010 2 comments By: JMimie

Peace Beyond Understanding

The past four days, I was flooded by words of sympathy + encouragement from thoughtful friends in relation to one big event happening in someone else's life. I understand why they did that to me. Intentionally to console me. Empathically to tell me that I am not alone. That they understand my pain. Even share my grief. And I really appreciate it. But only a few able to contemplate the truth when I said, "I'm not sad. I've forgiven and forgotten all the hurt been done to me. I'm happy for that someone's happiness." Some raised their brows showing doubts whether or not I really meant it. Their non-verbal message was telling me "I doubt your sincerity. You are being unrealistic. You're hiding your true feelings." Maybe yes, maybe no. But one thing for sure, I'm perfectly peaceful and joyful within because Someone Greater than I is my confidence, whom I put all my trust. It's a peace beyond understanding. It's a joy beyond comprehension. It's a faith beyond the obvious - the truth and reality that I am holding to.

Therefore, I find no reason to be sad.

To whom it may concern, please apologize me for being so silent and been invisible for some time. It's nothing to do with things that had happened between us. It's just because I need to silence all the voices around me so that I can hear that soft and small voice from above more clearly. I'd rather have that 'small voice' speaking to me than anything. May the Lord bless you bountifully as you begin your new journey of life. Congrats to both of you.

To all my friends, thank you for your concerns. God bless everyone.

From Mimie with love.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010 0 comments By: JMimie

Letting Go of the "If Onlys"

I have 4 different topics on my mind right now. One of them is "Thursday" which is at the top of my list but don't know why I ended up writing for this topic instead. Maybe because I myself need to unleash some hidden "if onlys" that I've ignorantly stored up within me for so long. Or maybe because my mood was sort of influenced by this friend of mine who is so pathetically living her life with so many regrets that she keeps on saying "if only..." about this and that, all the time. Constantly listening to her irrational wishes, I was like "come on babe, it's not the end of the world yet. Stop messing up your life! Forget the past, live your life in the present. Life is too short to live with if onlys...better die with dignity than go on living in misery!"

Nevertheless, down deep inside my heart I realize that I do, at times, echo similar nonsense wishes as well. Although I don't consider myself as a chronic if onlys victim, it's worth all my effort to remove even the slightest trace of unhealthy regrets out of my life. Because I believe our ability to move on in life depends greatly on our success in letting go of regrets.

Friends, do you find yourself constantly regretting things that you should have done but you hadn't or things that you shouldn't have done but you had? If you do, then don't just ignore it. Treat it as a crucial warning to change your destructive mindset. Release your grip on the unchangeable past mistakes. Just think of them as a part of your development process to be a better you. They were there for a purpose. And whatever they were, dare to believe that all things always work together for good.

Rise up above your regrets. Let go of the if onlys. Say goodbye to them now. Because you are destined for greatness!
Thursday, October 14, 2010 0 comments By: JMimie

Six Month of Length

Bila mood untuk berpuisi tiba...macam2 buli keluar :)

Six Month Of Length

Six month of length
There my broken heart lay
Very deeply pierced within
Wounded to heal no more

What is the meaning of life IF...
....my soul refused to be comforted
....my heart has ceased to ring a melody
....my mind has lost its sanity
....my strength has vanished to nothingness

Let the witch place a curse on that night
Erase it never to exist
Then I wouldn't have drunk from that cup of deception
Of folly and silliness of words
If only....

Could it be a blessing in disguise?
By all means indeed
For there is a rainbow after the rain
At the end of the six month of length

Mimie
September 2010.

P/S: Life can only be understood looking backward, but it must be lived forward
Friday, October 1, 2010 3 comments By: JMimie

Starting Afresh

I know it's not the new year yet. It's only first of October. Still four months more to go to 2011. But I believe it's never too early neither too late to make new resolutions and start all over again. We can always have it now or then as long as we still have breath coming through our nostrils. As for me, I choose to mark today as my new beginning towards a more competitive attitude to struggle for what is ahead and press forward towards the goal to win the prize of the upward call.

In order for me to begin for a fresh new start, for a better one hopefully, I've found out that I need to get my "mind overhauled" daily which I never thought of being really needed before. I need to unlearn loads of unnecessary stuffs which are no longer relevant or are better to live without. How? These include having a certain period of peaceful getaway occasionally, separating or disconnecting or limiting my involvement with anything/anyone that do not support positive growth of my mind and forgiving and forgetting whatever grievances I have against another.

I know it wouldn't be easy to unlearn what we have learned for so long especially the negative ones. Trying to undo them is almost like attempting the impossible. But it's a must thing to do and we can only do it by the aid of a Higher Being, provided that we are willing to be obedient and teachable. Don't you wish to be naive again concerning evil things my friends? It's time to start afresh!


Wednesday, July 28, 2010 3 comments By: JMimie

Keep Going!

Hi rakan2 bloggers...I'm back!

Lama sungguh blog ini terbiar dan tidak diupdate...so sorry. Sudah lama ingin diupdate sebenarnya namun apakan daya, halangan tidak habis2 datang menghalang....well, the truth is I was very ill for many many weeks (months) and almost died but God had mercy on me to spare me sorrow upon sorrow...and here I am now, thankfully still alive and eager to press forward no matter what tragedy befalls me.

Someone said to me, "Life is what you make it and in order for it to count you must step forward and be all that you can be. You can't let trials and hardship stop you and get you down!". True enough...nothing in this world can stop us and get us down if we choose to keep our step forward, not backward neither remain idle! So, keep going forward people!

I've been reading a lot of books lately including those of Norman Vincent Peale's, a very inspiring motivator ever! Go and find his books yourself and see if you not gonna agree with me :D.

I still have a lot more to say here but my level of energy is still not so permissive...will write more as soon as I gain my total strength back.
Wednesday, April 21, 2010 0 comments By: JMimie

There's A Time For Everything..

Been very busy these days. Almost zero time for blogging and doing other less important things. Of course I do miss writing and sharing stories, ideas, news with friends on blogs, fbook etc but I just don't have the luxury of time to do all these activities for the time being. To make things worse, my celcom broadband line pun tersangatlah teruk :( ...hmmm...

I wish I have more time and energy to do many many more than what I can do now...anyway, whatever my or your wishes are...it's always comforting to remember that there's always a time for everything...just keep going on and be patient!

See you guys. Take care.
Tuesday, February 2, 2010 3 comments By: JMimie

LOVE BETWEEN TWO HEARTS (II): EVERYDAY I LOVE YOU

It's the MONTH OF LOVE again...as usual I always love February (and of course January too). These are the months when I normally feel more energetic, full of enthusiasm and hopeful. I don't know why exactly but I guess it has to do with the consciousness that I'm at the beginning of the year, at the beginning of something new and I'm just excited about it. Hopefully this positive spirit of mine will remain with me towards the end of the year.

Valentine's Day is just around the corner...a day to 'extra' love one another. And me, 2 or 3 days from now I'll be moving to somewhere and therefore will be away for maybe 2 or 3 weeks if not months, not sure yet. Until everything is ok and I get my broadband ready, I won't be seeing you guys for some time. So before I go off, I've decided to share my thoughts again on love between two hearts (II), a continuation of my previous entry, Love Between Two Hearts (I).

Everyday I Love You (EILY)...yes, you're right. It's a title of a song by Boyzone, released maybe somewhere between late 90s and early millenium...can't remember when exactly but not a new song on the block for sure. I think everyone on Utarafm.net and SAM knows that I'm a fan of this song :D. They know this is my lagu wajib because everytime I make my song request, I always request for this same song over and over again. In fact, this song has been my favorite since 10 years back. I never get bored listening to it and guess will always love this song till the end of my life...hehe. Why aaahh...there are some reasons for it actually.

Firstly, yeah I love the melody and the accompaniment...particularly the sound of the piano being played at the beginning and ending parts of the song...it sounds very soothing to me. Secondly, no doubt I love the lyrics. It reflects deep love, happiness and appreciation someone has for her/his lover. Every word in the lyrics is expressed in such a meaningful, thoughful and loving way. And I especially love the expression of EILY itself because to me that's just how love between two hearts should be. Love should be felt, expressed and shared everyday, in every beat of the hearts.

Thirdly, this song means a lot to me, personally. The sentimental value of it just couldn't be replaced by any other song out there. The sweet memory of realizing that I'm loved by someone whom I can love back as much as the other person does is just fantastic. No wonder the writer of the lyrics said this line...you'll never live until you love with all your heart and soul. And yes, real love should be lived with all your heart and soul. Loving someone half-heartedly brings you nowhere. It's pointless. Now, I'm not talking about feeling alone. It's about EVERYTHING you have. Guided by the right principle, you must be willing to give everything of you for the sake of your loved one. I know it's no easy to do this but loving with all our heart and soul in other words means self-sacrificing love. Instead of thinking what's the best for me, you choose to think what's the best for him/her first. Despite the fact that you really want to spend the rest of your life with him/her, you let him go any way, knowing that he has to go for his sake and not yours - that's self-sacrificing love. How pathetic to hear that many lovers especially young lovers today when threaten by the possibility of breaking-up, they usually use this abusive statement "I cannot live without you...I can't bear losing you, I'll surely die...etc" in order to make thier partner stay in the relationship. Maturedly speaking, to me that's not love at all. That is being selfish.

One more element of loving with all our heart and soul a.k.a self-sacrificing love is to always live life to the fullest, happily and hatred-free because you can't bear seeing your loved one gets hurt in knowing that you live a miserable life due to his/her faults or betrayal, due to separation, or whatsoever. Stop being a victim of self-pity. Stop blaming your lover for your misery. That's not love. That is being selfish!

Last but not least, never cease to love for love never fails. If you have been hurt, forgive. If you have to let your most beloved one go, do it because of love; self-sacrifcing love.

To all my friends: Happy Valentine's day in advance. Be happy and smile always. Love is a marvelous gift. Accept it. See it. Hear it. Smell it. Taste It...live it with all your heart and soul! Really living!


p/s: When I say everyday I love you...I really mean it. I mean I love you EVERYDAY -I loved you yesterday, I love you today, shall continue to love you tomorrow, forever and always :D

Till we meet again...

Lots of love,
Mimie.
Monday, January 11, 2010 6 comments By: JMimie

My Special Tribute To Yb Anita Baranting


I didn't plan to write and publish this on the net at first but the unconditional love that has been lavished on me is just too much to keep that my heart is overflowed and thus can't stop myself from sharing it with you my friends because who knows it might positively inspire someone's else life in one way or another.

Let me begin with a brief reflection of the past first.

2009...

The first eight months were fantastic months for me. Those were the times when I laughed all the day long...was over the moon all the time. In short, it was indeed a blooming season for me.

Unfortunately, the last four months of the year turned drastically to the other way around. It was a "Months of Sorrow - full of tears and pain". Those months were marked with feeling of being betrayed, rejected and treated unfairly. Suddenly, the whole world around me seemed to be merciless. Grace was hardly found anywhere. The long forgotten feeling of unworthiness once again haunted me, scared me to death.

8th & 9th January 2010

Just when I feel I am worthless and of no value to anyone (except to my own family), God sent someone as loving as YB Anita to show me that He cares for me, He loves me unconditionally. Frankly speaking, I never met YB personally before. I may never have the chance to see her personally if not because she herself initiated the effort to come and visit me at home. Since she knew in prior that I was not in favor of too many visitors coming to see me at the same time, so she came alone (I said alone because she came without her bodyguard, PA nor secretary), only accompanied by her daughter-in-law. Without any formal protocol, it was indeed a truly friendly visit, a very humble approach. From that simple beginning, she ended up spending 1 day + 1 night time with me :D.

Just when I feel I am nothing but a burden to most people, YB made me feel truly important and special in one's eyes. She brought me to a special place to see a special individual for a special reason...hehe. Everything was special indeed. She gave me the best when I least deserved it. With her packed and heavy schedule as a 'wakil rakyat', she could still spare one specific time for me - I mean for me and me alone -, not for 1 or 2 hours only but for 1 day + 1 night...very impressive!

But above all....the most meaningful part of it was the love she expressed not by words but by her tender merciful action that touched every impulse of my heart...the concerned look, the sincere prayers, the loving touches, the comforting hugs, the sacrifice of her time, energy, $$$ and everything made me feel like a very special friend of her...no, it's even deeper than that actually...frankly, it feels more like a mother-daughter kind of relationship. Honestly, deep down in my heart I didn't remember her treating me like a friend because I was actually treated like a beloved daughter of a caring and loving mother. No gap of position or rank, just unconditional love.


Those precious moments she willingly and happily spent with me, not by my request but out of her own initiative, made me feel really human, really living! That particular experience has somehow challenged my long distorted view of love between human beings and gratefully prompted me to look into a new different perspective of life –of the reality of an unconditional love. I must say the whole experience of being treated and loved in that way gives an amazing therapeutic effect on me. Thank you so much YB. I love you.


2010...I'm finally seeing there's a new ray of hope....a renewed hope in the All Merciful Creator.


Therefore my friend, treat others just as you want to be treated. Show some kindness to someone in need today and you'll be amazed just how much difference it can make to that person. God bless everyone.


Note: Pemimpin yang berjiwa rakyat? No doubt...YES, SHE IS.

Friday, December 25, 2009 1 comments By: JMimie

Merry Christmas 2009

It's Christmas day. A day of giving and loving. Don't forget to give these free gifts away:

To your enemy, forgiveness.
To an opponent, tolerance.
To a friend, your heart.
To a customer, service.
To all, charity.
To every child, a good example.
To yourself, respect.
- Oren Arnold

Have a blessed Christmas my friends! God bless everyone.

Tuesday, December 15, 2009 8 comments By: JMimie

Love Between Two Hearts (I)

Thanks be to God, I'm able to be back...at last.

Maaf kepada sahabat2 yang selalu berkunjung ke sini tetapi disambut dengan kesunyian dan rumah yang kosong. Dalam lama saya berdiam, rupa-rupanya masih ramai yang tetap memberikan sokongan dan menanti-nantikan 'kepulangan'ku. Masih ramai yang sayang pula ni...hehe. Thanks my friends.

Bagi yang tertanya-tanya ke mana menghilangnya Mimie...don't worry. I'm still here and still alive :D. Walaupun last few entries saya dulu mungkin berbunyi sedih dan tertekan tetapi itu bukan alasan untuk saya berputus asa. Walaupun agak lama dalam retreat mode tetapi one thing I can assure you all, "I'm bad at giving up". Darah perjuangan yang mengalir dalam tubuh tidak mungkin berhenti selagi bernyawa. Hidup memang tidak semestinya mudah setiap saat tetapi kekuatan untuk menghadapi kesukaran juga tidak kurang hebatnya tersedia bagi mereka yang mencarinya dari Sumber yang tepat. Maksudnya, tidak ada sesiapa pun di dunia akan dapat dikalahkan oleh cabaran jika kita belajar untuk melihat cabaran itu dari perspektif yang lebih besar daripada cabaran itu sendiri. Cabaran hanyalah satu platform untuk kita lebih mengenal kelemahan kita dan bangkit bangun kepada tingkat kehidupan yang lebih tinggi, lebih baik dari sebelumnya. But with one condition, NEVER GIVE UP...berehat seketika jika perlu tapi jangan berhenti berjuang.

Adess...panjang lebar pula mukadimah saya...actually as the title above implied, this entry is meant to speak about love (yang pernah saya pending sebelum ini). Sebelum diteruskan, minta maaf kalau pembaca2 terganggu dengan bahasa campur2 saya kali ini sebab memang 'rujak' bahasa yang ada dalam otak saya sekarang...huhuhu.

Love between two hearts (man and woman only)...hmmm...what am I supposed to say about this? Since this entry is written a few days before my special friend's wedding day, I hope she can accept this as my online wish and gift for her wedding for she knows I couldn't make it to her big day which am totally upset with. Hopefully and pray-fully everything will be fine and blessed on that day.

To me, to love and being loved is one of the greatest wonderful experiences human beings have ever been privileged with. The ecstasy of feelings that love can bring is unique and can't be found anywhere unless you're in love. No wonder people came up with those sayings "tidur tak lena, makan tak kenyang, mandi tak basah"...and weirdly enough, it's literally true...hahaha. If anyone is right now experiencing or about to experience this enigma...I advise you, enjoy the moment to the fullest because it won't stay that way forever. In real world, true love doesn't always appear as easy as the tale famous line "they live happily ever after". When the first passion and excitement has faded away, real life with real challenges will take place. In this sense, love becomes a blend of laughter and cries which undoubtedly not easy to go through unless we are truly committed to each other. There must be a right balance between these two souls. Both should have an equal sense of desire and effort to make the relationship lasts till the end. Yes, disagreements may occur along the way, and the more we fight the more we see the faults, imperfectness, and all the not-so-smooth surface of our partner's character but I guess that's just how real love should be. To be fully committed to a partner means to learn to accept his/her imperfectness because you want to regardless of what negative messages your feeling is shouting inside you. Again, it's never easy to do this but it's well worth the risk.

To be in love never means no more cries. There are times when loving truly brought pain and heartache. That's a normal reaction of our wounded ego. When trapped under this terrible spell, I guess there's no other better way to be out of it than to keep silence and take time to see the whole issue from a calmer and clearer minded, detached from emotional influence. Spend some time in prayer. By doing this, I personally think we'll be given the power to humble our wounded ego. Then only we'll realize that peace of mind begins with forgiveness. It's not about how much pain our partner causes us due to unfulfilled/broken promises, etc, but it's about how much and how many times are we willing to forgive each time after being hurt. 70X7 times? Think about it :D

Nanti saya sambung...penat menaip...hehe
Tuesday, November 3, 2009 1 comments By: JMimie

Just A Short Note

Terima kasih kepada semua sahabat2 maya yang sering menitipkan pesan2/komentar2 yang baik di sini, juga setinggi penghargaan di atas doa2 kalian untuk kesejahteraan saya dan keluarga. Semoga Tuhan memberkati kalian semua.

Just a short reminder for me and for everyone...

Anyone can carry his burden,


however hard, until nightfall.


Anyone can do his work,


however hard, for one day.


Anyone can live


SWEETLY, PATIENTLY, LOVINGLY, PURELY,


till the sun goes down


and this is all life really means.

- Robert Louis Stevenson



P/S: Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.
Monday, October 19, 2009 13 comments By: JMimie

Get Well Soon Mama..

I'm back. Feeling a bit better today. Still unable to type more than I could bear but will try my best to share a couple of encouraging lines here...

Hampir 2 minggu berlalu RL sunyi sepi tanpa suara tuan rumah...yes, as i have informed you all earlier my long absence was due to my unstable health condition, both physically and emotionally. I admit those 2 weeks and even up to now were very tough days for me to go through. I fell very ill and was depressed with almost everything and everyone around me. I was easily irritated and feeling gloomy and blue all the time...nasib baik 'my beloved best friend' sabar dan tahan dengan my unpredictable swings of mood time2 darurat begini...thanks dear for being a very understanding friend of mine :D.

Walaupun cabaran yang saya (dan keluarga) tanggung selama dua minggu ini bukan bertambah ringan, bahkan bertambah mencabar namun I truly learn a lot! I feel much better now not because my (health) problems have been solved but rather because of the peace that dwells in my heart in spite of the painful trial that me and my family have to go through now. In a blink of an eye, many 'bad' things happened in rows lately. Firstly, keadaan kesihatan saya sangat merosot...dan pastinya itu membuatkan bapa, mama dan family susah hati. Kemudian, soon after that dad was admitted to the hospital for 3 days because of anemia dan sedikit pendarahan dalam usus. Mama and my eld. sister took care of dad while there. Lepas tu, on the day dad keluar dari hospital, mama's father (mendiang KK Gaul B Majun) gave up his last breath and died on the ninth of October 2009. Belum habis berkabung dengan kepergian grandpa...four days after the funeral (last Thursday), all in a sudden, Mama diserang stroke yang menyebabkan separuh badan (sebelah kanan) lumpuh. Masih dirawat di QE Hospital hingga kini. She can't get up on her own. Can't talk too. Cannot even eat through the mouth. She can only eat using the tube that plugged in through her nose goes directly to the stomach. Pity mama...

Mula2 menerima semua hakikat ini....I was so devastated! I felt crushed and became more depressed. But after a lot of praying...akhirnya saya belajar sesuatu yang sangat berharga. Seperti 'dipukul' oleh sesuatu yang sangat menyakitkan, saya sedar bahawa di saat berat seperti sekarang, saya sepatutnya menjadi lebih kuat daripada selalu. Seakan baru sedar dari mimpi yang panjang, saya melihat 'kebodohan' membiarkan diri dalam kemurungan kerana perkara2 yang berada di luar daripada kemampuan saya untuk mengawalnya...I've been telling myself this...

When things are out out of our control, worry is futile. Have faith in God!

All my siblings turn to me and keep telling me "jangan sedih sangat...jaga kesihatan" because they know sadness and depression are great 'pantang' for my illness. I tell them...don't worry, i'll be strong....yess...I'll be strong for mama.

All I hope and pray now is for mama to get well and have her normal health back. May the good Lord grant my(our) prayers. I know mama is strong just like me...and I believe both of us will be able to get up and walk side by side again..very soon...I promise...I'll do everything I can to be healthy again...if not for myself, it's for mama.

Be strong everyone no matter how tough your life is...enjoy your happy moment because it will not stay long, appreciate your every challenging hours too because it will not stay forever either.
Thursday, October 8, 2009 8 comments By: JMimie

Love and Relationship - pending

Been in silence for almost 2 weeks by now. Actually I have lots of things to write on here but just not in the right mood at the moment. I've been out of energy and terribly not well these days. Kinda dizzy and lethargic. I promised a friend to share my write-up on love and relationship but even this one need to be put off also....so sorry my friend for keeping you to wait some more.

To all RL readers, visitors...thanks for you endless support. Will resume blogging soon when I regain my health back. Wish you all the best of luck, health and happiness.
Wednesday, September 16, 2009 4 comments By: JMimie

Being A Bookworm Again!

Nothing much to write this week. Not because I'm running out of ideas....not exactly for sure. It just that I'm having my most enjoyable time with something that I've forsaken for quite a long time, so couldn't get rid of it for the time being. You must be guessing what is it actually I'm up to...hehe...something very special of course. Well, getting myself back acquainted to my long forgotten passion was not that difficult as I had predicted it earlier. In fact, reading has always been my all-time favorite hobby since childhood up to now. But due to many constraints, I almost lost the passion of really reading for these past few months. Being over occupied with other commitments made me to put reading off for a long time, which I really regret it by now.

Thank goodness, I've found my way back...huhuhu....so, it's time to be on silent mode again. Sometimes we need to be still in order to be refilled and refueled before we can go on to the next level of life's journey. Before I can share anything more valuable here and on my other blogs, let me polish my sense of 'hearing' and thinking through reading first.

Come go with me to the world of books!

....was thinking of writing an entry with similiar topic but different content on SAM tapi...hmmm...bisuk2 sajalah...:)
Wednesday, September 9, 2009 9 comments By: JMimie

Happiness is....?

Many people crave for a happy life. In fact, all living homosapiens either consciously or non-consciously has indeed been living for the quest of the one and only, the 9-letters word called HAPPINESS. Unfortunately, many –or perhaps I should say mostly – people has failed in finding the way to real happiness. Why? Simply because they have failed in choosing the right path that would lead to the right destination in the first place. Many turn to money, health, wealth, friends, music, job and even relationship for happiness but finally ending up in frustration when struck by reality that those things can make them happy (extremely happy at times), but can’t give true fulfillment. Money and wealth can’t love you back. Health decreases in quality as the years slip by. Friends can’t give you hope. Love can go sour and bitter. Music and job are pretty impersonal, in the long run.



So, what is happiness then? Different person has different view on what happiness is. What is your personal definition of happiness?

Sunday, September 6, 2009 9 comments By: JMimie

Part 3 - Determining The Right Choice

Salam sejahtera. Kita masih lagi berada di bulan merdeka, jadi rasanya belum terlambat untuk saya mengucapkan Salam Merdeka 1Malaysia. Salam perjuangan kepada sahabat2 setia RL. Sesungguhnya kunjungan, sokongan dan komen2 positif rakan2 sekalian amat berharga dan bermakna untuk menemani langkah perjuanganku yang belum selesai. Terima kasih sahabat2ku!

Menyambung kembali entry lalu saya yang agak lama tertunda, selain 3 panduan yang sudah saya kongsikan tentang bagaimana membuat pilihan yang betul, masih ada 2 panduan tambahan yang akan saya huraikan sebagai penyudah entry "Determining The Right Choice".

Panduan 4 - Meminta nasihat dan pandangan daripada ibubapa/orang dewasa yang matang dan 'spiritual'. Apabila kita harus membuat satu pilihan yang besar, yang akan mempengaruhi seluruh hidup kita sepanjang hayat, kita haruslah meminta nasihat daripada ibubapa dan beberapa orang yang matang. Tetapi matang saja tidak cukup, orang itu juga haruslah spiritual kerana kata2 seorang yang tidak mengenal Tuhan pasti berbeza dengan kata2 seorang yang rohaninya teguh kerana dia bukan berbicara atas kebijaksanaan sendiri tetapi oleh kebijaksanaan dari 'atas'. Harus diingat bahawa meminta nasihat daripada seorang yang tidak spiritual adakalanya membahayakan kerana besar kemungkinan nasihat itu akan membawa kita kepada keputusan yang salah. Ketika meminta nasihat daripada beberapa orang yang matang dan spiritual, kita harus mendengar persamaan dan perbezaan pendapat mereka. Jika hampir rata2 mengatakan pilihan A adalah yang terbaik, pertimbangkanlah nasihat mereka itu sewajarnya. Pasti ada sebab logik dan baik yang menyebabkan suara mereka mempunyai irama yang senada. Walaupun kadang2 keputusan terbaik boleh jadi datang dari suara minoriti tapi biasanya itu jarang terjadi dan kalaupun terjadi harus ada satu panduan terakhir yang kita mesti pertimbangkan sebelum kita 'confirm'kan keputusan/pilihan muktamad kita.

Panduan 5 - Adakah hati kita benar-benar damai dengan keputusan/pilihan yang kita buat? Sekalipun kita memenuhi semua kriteria yang saya sebutkan sebelum ini namun jika hati kita tetap tidak damai dengan pilihan yang kita buat, pasti ada sesuatu yang silap ketika proses membuat pilihan itu dilakukan. Contohnya, seorang pelajar memilih jurusan kedoktoran sebagai bidang pengajian dan seterusnya akan menjadi kariernya kerana didorong oleh keluarga untuk memilih profesion tersebut. Walaupun pelajar ini 'excel' dalam pengajian perubatan tetapi hatinya sentiasa tidak tenang dan tidak ada kedamaian yang sejati. Akhirnya, pelajar tersebut menukar jurusan pengajian kepada bidang keagamaan. Setelah itu, barulah dia dapat merasakan kedamaian yang sebenar di dalam hatinya. Ini sekadar satu ilustrasi, masih banyak contoh lain yang boleh kita temui seperti dalam memilih pasangan hidup.

One last reminder...

Belajarlah untuk mendengar suara 'kecil' di dalam hati anda. Jangan abaikan rasa hati yang berat(tidak tenteram) untuk meneruskan langkah kerana itu mungkin petanda bahawa anda sedang berjalan di track yang salah. Apabila anda sudah membuat sesuatu keputusan dan mulai melangkah mengikuti arah itu tetapi anda masih lagi tidak merasakan satu kedamaian jiwa di dalam Tuhan, maka itu adalah saat untuk berhenti melangkah dan berpatah balik. Berpatah baliklah ke tempat di mana hati anda menemui kedamaian di dalam Dia. After all, jika benar anda telah membuat keputusan dan pilihan yang tepat mengikut kehendak Dia, pasti Dia akan memeteraikannya bersama kedamaian jiwa.

Selamat membuat keputusan yang tepat! Selamat meneruskan perjuangan!

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